I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD at 55, and it transformed my understanding of myself. Until a few months earlier, I had no idea I might be neurodivergent. Now, as a Neurodivergent Counsellor and Mentor, I actively welcome people who think they might be neurodivergent (ND), are considering getting assessed, or simply need a safe place to talk. I support individuals who are autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, dyspraxic, or living with conditions like Tourette’s, OCD, and more.
Here are ten reasons why working with a neurodivergent counsellor like me can be a great fit for your mental health and well-being:
- Finding Patterns in Behaviour
As neurodivergent people, we often have a strong interest in patterns, and this is something I bring into my counselling practice. Together, we can discover which behaviours have happened, when they occur, and how they manifest. By identifying these patterns, we can adapt them to create more positive outcomes. It’s about building on your strengths and potentially creating healthier patterns in your life.
- Celebrating Difference
Many neurodivergent people have felt like outsiders, misunderstood by those around them. Finding someone who “gets” you can be incredibly validating. As a neurodivergent counsellor, I understand what it’s like to feel different and to embrace that difference. We’re not broken, and we don’t need fixing. Our challenges come with unique abilities, and I’m here to support and celebrate that, helping you find ways to thrive.
- Diagnosis
Deciding to go for an assessment or diagnosis can be stressful and anxiety-inducing. I know this firsthand—I went into shutdown mode before my second assessment after being misdiagnosed in my first. Feelings of imposter syndrome or anxiety are common, especially for those diagnosed later in life. Once diagnosed, many people experience a mix of emotions such as shock, grief, or identity confusion. Therapy can help you process these emotions and begin rewriting your life story with greater understanding and acceptance of who you are.
- Understanding Co-occurring Conditions
As a neurodivergent person, you may also have conditions like dyslexia, Tourette’s, dyspraxia, or OCD, and it’s common for these to overlap. Neurodivergence is often multifaceted. You may identify with one condition or have more than one, such as Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), or being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). In our sessions, we can explore how these traits interact and how to manage them more effectively.
- Authentic Empathy
When you work with someone who shares your lived experience, there’s a level of empathy that goes beyond just understanding intellectually. I know what it’s like to navigate the world as a neurodivergent person, and I bring that authentic empathy into our work. You’ll find a safe space where you can be yourself without the need to mask or hide parts of your identity.
- Navigating Masking and Burnout
Many neurodivergent people have learned to mask their traits to fit in, which often leads to exhaustion and burnout. I understand the toll that masking can take and can help you develop strategies to reduce the need for it. Together, we can work on ways to prevent burnout and build healthier boundaries and self-care routines that work for your neurodivergent mind.
- Focus on Strengths, Not Deficits
Traditional mental health approaches often focus on what’s “wrong” with someone. In our work together, we’ll focus on your strengths. Neurodivergent people often have incredible talents, creativity, and unique problem-solving skills. Our goal will be to highlight and build on these strengths, rather than focusing solely on challenges.
- Managing Rejection Sensitivity
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is common among people with ADHD and other neurodivergent conditions, and it can make perceived rejection feel extremely painful. I understand how overwhelming RSD can be, and together, we can work on ways to manage these feelings and build resilience in social situations.
- Helping You Rewrite Your Story
After my diagnosis, rewriting my life story gave me a sense of freedom and authenticity. I can help you do the same. Therapy offers the space to reframe your experiences, especially if you’ve been masking or felt misunderstood for a long time. Together, we’ll explore your narrative and help you create a new one that aligns with who you truly are.
- Creating a Community of Understanding
As a neurodivergent counsellor, I’m not just a therapist—I’m part of your community. I understand how important it is to feel connected and validated. I can guide you toward resources, support groups, or communities where you’ll find like-minded individuals and a sense of belonging.
Final Thoughts
Working with a neurodivergent counsellor means having someone who truly understands both the challenges and the strengths that come with neurodivergence. Whether you’re exploring a diagnosis, looking for support, or simply wanting a safe space to talk, I’m here to help.
P.S. If you’re ready to explore your neurodivergent identity with someone who truly understands, get in touch for a free consultation. Together, we’ll create a personalised approach that helps you embrace your strengths and navigate your challenges with confidence.